To make a change in your life, you must start with the question Why. Why do you want to make a change? It is a very confronting question when you think about it carefully. Think long and hard about this question, because the answer will be your greatest motivation.
Once you have found the answer to
why you want to make a change. You then need to dig deep and create some goals on
how you are going to make the changes to yourself and your life to achieve your
why. The most important thing when creating your why is the make sure it is
your reason not someone else’s. If the reason is not yours, you will fail to
achieve the outcome of changing your life for the better.
Activity: Sit down and write out a list of reasons why you want to make a change. Be as brave and as bold as you like. Think of a minimum ten whys. There needs to be a WHY for every part of your life you want to change.
To get you started here are some common reasons:
- Become a better person, better partner, better father/mother
- Learn to be professional, more confident, increase your self esteem
- Become stronger, fitter, healthier
- Become more educated, less ignorant, more intelligent
- Look better, dress better, smell better
- Communicate better, speak clearer, use and understand the English language better
Now you have your reasons, you now need to put these reasons into goals so you can start creating this new you. Start with ensuring that your reasons are very clear, so you can create goals that are also clear.
In my Life coaching and Personal training business I start by asking my clients, why they want to make a change. This is before I ask them their goals or any other questions.
I often hear from my clients that they want to make a change for any of a dozen reasons, which is great, when I ask why I often hear them say “I am doing this for my children”, or “my partner wants me to lose weight”. This is when I say “Stop”, these are not your reasons, lets start again. Many are puzzled by this reaction but let me tell you the reasons must be yours, they cannot be for someone else. I think it is great people think this way, but you must be saying I am doing this for me so that I can play with my kids. I am doing this for me, so I can be a better husband for my wife. Only then can your really own the reason and start to make a change.
Doing something for someone else, usually ends in regret and often disaster, especially if your fail to achieve something that some else wants. A lot of pressure can be put on you so please do it for yourself. Of course, you will need the support of people around you. Now you have your reason lets begin with creating goals to match those reasons and put them into action
Be your best