Tip #21 – It is Never Too Late to Start a University Degree
Completing a University degree for the first time later in your life can have many benefits. Firstly, they are easier to complete, depending on the degree topic. It would be expected that you have lots of experiences and skills behind you, which will help your success. Furthermore, most people I know who have completed a degree usually did this straight out of high school, and many say they will never go back. Doing a degree or even a second degree later in life can help you in your career where you are now, because the same degree completed 30 years ago is vastly different from the same degree today.
Doing any higher education course has the benefit of NOW. The most UpToDate information and skills are learned, helping keep up with your competition the younger person vying for your position.
Tip #22 – Poor Man Pays Twice
There is a reason luxury items cost a lot of money; they last the distance. I remember when I was younger, I bought an expensive t-shirt from a high-end luxury boutique. It was not my intention to pay that much for a T-shirt, but I was so embarrassed I did not want to look like I could not afford it and purchased it. However, what I realised was that one T-shirt lasted over 10 years and still looked great. When I have bought cheaper clothes, they do not last this long, and I have had to buy them 4 times. Hence poor man pays twice.
Tip #23- Give Your Full Attention
A few years ago, a lesson I learnt was that when someone requires your attention, stop what you are doing and focus your attention on that person. This includes putting your phone down or looking up from the computer. Concentrate your attention on the person shows a lot about you as a leader/person. It shows respect. If you can’t stop what you are doing, acknowledge the person and let them know you will be with them as soon as possible. This is especially important for children. If you continue to ignore people, they will stop seeking your attention. They will seek the attention of someone else, don’t ever let that opportunity pass you.
Tip #24- Go to Bed Early and Rise Early
The National Sleep Foundation guidelines advise that healthy adults need between 7 and 9 hours of sleep per night. Babies, young children, and teens need even more sleep to enable their growth and development. Therefore, for optimal performance, get the recommended amount of sleep each day. I recommend going to bed early and rising early. Our metabolism starts to slow down sometime in the late afternoon. We tend to get tired around 3pm to 4pm, decreasing our attention span and concentration. This is why many schools finished at this time and high-risk jobs such as a construction worker.
To get the best out of yourself go to bed early, sometime between 9pm – 10pm and rise around 4am – 5am. Rising early when the rest of the world (except for shift and night workers) is still asleep is a magical time. You are very alert, there is often an eerier silence as the roads are quiet and the birds have not yet quite woken up, the sun is also still sleeping. Many successful people swear by this routine. It may take some getting used to but give it a try and reap the benefits of at least 3 hours of uninterrupted silent time. You will achieve more in those 3 hours than you will for the rest of the day.
Tip #25 – Give Yourself More Credit
There is nothing more damaging to your self-esteem than telling yourself you are not good enough. We are all equal; we just need to give ourselves more credit. Think about everything you have achieved or succeeded in life that is worth giving yourself more credit for. Do not sell yourself short, do not let anyone tell you, you are not good enough. Keep your head up, and be confident in your abilities. Sometimes and in some situations, whether it be a job or relationship, it is not the right fit, don’t settle just accept that it is not the right fit for you and move on.
Tip #26 Spend Time With Your Kids
Do you have kids? If so, put aside some uninterrupted time each day to be with them. You can learn so much from kids, but most importantly, you have the opportunity to teach and nurture a child. From my experience, this can be one of the most valuable gifts you can give your kids. Kids want and need your attention, and if you do not provide it to them, they will seek it from someone or someplace else. Work is work and will always be there, but your kids won’t be kids forever. Put your phone down, switch it off it you have to. Be present at every moment and spend as much time as possible.
Getting outdoors or away for a short break is beneficial to your health and your relationship with your family. Try leaving all electronics at home and turn the phone off. Do not let life pass you by and wonder how you didn’t get time to play with your kids.
Tip #27 – Give Pro Bono Work or Volunteer
Volunteering or using your expertise to help someone never goes unnoticed. Besides the great feeling, you get from the act. Volunteering can bring you a wealth of new skills, new contacts, and can even lead to new job opportunities. There are many ways you can volunteer just look for a cause you are passionate about and get in contact with your local organisation. Furthermore, having volunteered on your resume looks more favourable to potential employees.
Personal Development tips can be so valuable to our growth. Personal development is about growth, body, mind and soul. Many of the tips I share, have been past down to me from my Mother, Grandparents, Friends and Extraordinary people I have admired and looked up to over the years.
As the old quote says “People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Not matter what reason people always leave a tip or two.
Tip #11 – Be Kind to Everyone
One of the greatest joys I get is seeing a person’s eyes light up when I show them kindness. I believe that kindness is lacking in our society today because people are sceptical of a kind act. However, this is not true to those more vulnerable or innocent, such as the homeless, elderly, kids, and animals. My partner and I will not walk past a homeless person without offering to buy them something to eat and in most cases, give them some money. It is not the money that gives these people joy, it is the sheer fact that someone has stopped to show them kindness. When you show someone who may be down on their luck a bit of kindness, you will see just how grateful and humble a human can be. However, do not limit yourself to anyone in particular be kind to everyone.
Tip #12 – Work on your Core Muscles
Many moons ago I meet a guy once who had ABs of steel, no joke they were incredible. I asked him what he was doing to get such an impress six-pack . His response was five thousand (5000) sit-ups a week. That memory has stayed with me for an exceptionally long time, and when COVID-19 hit, and
we went into lockdown, I thought about that guy and thought I would try it. Turns out five thousand sit-ups a week is no easy feat, well at least for me anyway. I have managed to do two-hundred sit-ups per day, which is about fifteen hundred (1500) per week so far.
Fifteen hundred (1500) sit-ups /crunches/Abdominal exercise have yielded me some impressive results. thus far. My belly has drastically reduced in size, and I have a much firmer midsection. I still have more work to do, but I have maintained two hundred (200) or more a day for the past six (6) months.
I started my Abs of steel journey doing twenty (20) per day, and slowly increased this to fifty (50) per day. Some days, I break up the two hundred (200) into rounds of fifty (50) spread throughout the day.
Working on my abs everyday has not only given me a great stomach, but better posture and I feel more confident. I walk taller and feel a lot more confident. I have limited eating pasta, potatoes and limited my bread intake as these foods bloat my stomach. I challenge you to give it a go, age and size is no barrier, just start with a few crunches per day and work your way up. I have added inside crunches, planks, and other abdominal training varieties as an extra to the two hundred (20)0 per day. My goal is to hit that five thousand (5000) per week.
Tip #13 – Avoid Anything Toxic
Toxins can affect us in more ways than we know, therefore, try to avoid them as much as possible. We often forget that toxins are not just environmental, like pollution, so here is a reminder of what to avoid. Although not an exhaustive list. Some of the more well-known and apparent Toxins.
Human Toxins– Negative People, Gossiping, Swearing,
Spreading Rumours, Bullying, Talking Badly about Someone. Fat Shaming. Cyber
Bullying. The Tall Poppy Syndrome. Road Rage. Violence. Nasty people. Criminal
activity. Rude People. Cruelty. Destructive Behaviour. Dishonesty. Disrespect.
Unhealthy Relationships. Selfishness.
Man-Made Toxins- Alcohol, Drugs and Smoking. Pornography.
Toxic Foods and Chemicals- see below.
Toxic Foods– Fatty foods, High sugar, High fructose corn
syrup, and Starchy Foods. Saturated Fats. Trans Fats. Processed Foods.
Artificial Colours and Flavours. Polycyclic Aromatic Hydrocarbons (PAHs) (Red
Meats). Mercury in Fish. Monosodium Glutamate (MSG). Sodium Nitrate. Caffeine
(although hard to avoid :)).
Pollution– Environmental, Air, Water and Noise.
Chemicals– Pesticides. Parabens, Sulphate Bisphenol-A
(BPA). Ammonia. to name a minimal list
Tip #14 – Take a Walk Every day.
I was recently reminded by the CEO of my current workplace how important it is to get out and go for a walk. Often, especially at work, we can be tied to our desks and do not take the time to go for a walk. When we get out, we exercise, breathe in some fresh air, and get some sunshine. A walk whether at work or
home has many benefits and we should do this more often. Buy some good runners, go for a 15-minute walk. You can use the time to meditate, Listen to music or a podcast, have an enjoyable conversation or take your kids for a bike ride.
Tip #15 – Learning a New Skill Increases your Value.
In today’s modern world, it is no longer just ok to learn one skill. If you want to move ahead in your area of expertise, change your career or better yourself, then it is important to diversify your skills. Having new skills can make you an unbelievably valuable asset and even more beneficial if you have multiple skills in various areas. Furthermore, the more diverse your skills are, the better you become as a person, making you even more employable.
What skills should you learn, and how do you learn a new skill?
It is a great question, and it all depends on your current situation, environment and where you see yourself in the future. My future goal is to be running a successful online retail business; therefore, I have identified that I need to learn skills such as marketing, SEO, google ads, and social media marketing, to name a few. Of
course, I could always outsource any of these skills, and I will. However, if I do not have these skills, how can I find someone who is the expert in that skill to outsource in the first place?
Tip #16 – Exercise your Legs.
When you train your legs in the gym, your core and cardiovascular system also get a workout. There is a reason many people avoid training their legs, it is a hard workout and can often wipe you out. That is the idea!
Exercise your legs more than your upper body and reap the rewards. You will have a more muscular stance, stronger mid-section, buns of steel and stronger inner core muscles. As we age, our pelvic floor muscle become weak if we do not train them, and this can lead to all sorts of challenges. Training legs using weight will help tighten all that up for you.
If you are not sure where to start to try this routine, start with bodyweight, and slowly add weight. Although I encourage you to work out in a gym, this routine can be done anywhere, at any time. Adding weight to your body is only limited by your imagination. During the lockdown, I had my son on my back while
I performed the below routine, apart for jumping as this may cause injury.
20 x Body Weight Squats x 4
20 x Lunges x 4
20 x Single Leg Squats x 3
For an added extra kick add- 50 x Jump Squats plus 50 Jump Lunges x 2 (Caution
do not do any jumping exercises with weights if you have bad knees, ankles, hips,
or any back issues).
If you can manage to get to a gym, you can also add the Leg Press, Deadlifts and Machines for an extra leg workout.
Tip- #17 – Learn Something New Everyday
Humans are creatures that strive to learn every day. How good does it feel when you learn something new? It may be something as small as trivia or something large like a new system at work. Either we should be seeking to learn something. If you learn something new by mistake all that much better. I challenge you to learn one new thing every day. If you get to the end of the day and have not learnt something, subscribe to a
Word App such as Vocabulary.com and learn a new word, grammar, spelling and vocabulary.
Tip #18 – Increase your Software Knowledge.
Do you know what all the buttons in the taskbar in Microsoft Word or Excel?
Do you know what the F buttons on a keyboard are for?
You may not have advanced computers or software skills like Microsoft Word or Excel. However, with only fifteen minutes of training per day, you can become advanced in any computer software you like, and very fast. LinkedIn Learning has many training courses that can help you in learning
or developing your software skills. Learning or enhancing your computer skills adds value to your ever growing skill set. When you learn a new skill on LinkedIn learning you are rewarded with a certificate which you can link directly to your LinkedIn account for everyone to see. Furthermore, LinkedIn learning has a plethora of other skills you can learn as well. Do yourself a favour subscribe today.
Tip #19 – Watch Documentaries
When you watch a documentary, you often learn things you never knew about.
Furthermore, your newfound knowledge can be an enjoyable conversation starter. You could even store the facts you learn for another day in time as a contestant on a game show. These days we are spoilt for choice regarding documentaries, whether it be about someone famous, infamous, history, science, global warming, or social media the options are endless.
Streaming services such as Netflix have some cool documentaries in many genres. However, you cannot go past the documentaries that Sir David Attenborough has produced such as, the OUR PLANET series, some powerful and informative stuff. If you have not seen the social dilemma (also on netfilx), watch it and let me know what you think.
Tip #20 – Train your Brain
Sudoku, Crossword puzzles and Jigsaw puzzles are excellent brain training tools. Playing puzzles can be fun, challenging, and frustrating. But they are extremely rewarding when you figured them out and complete them. You may not solve the puzzle in fifteen (15) minutes, however, try to work on a puzzle
for about 15 minutes each day. According to James Pickett, head of research at the UK’s Alzheimer’s Society suggests that playing “brain games” such as Sudoku may not prevent dementia but has been shown that regularly challenging yourself mentally seems to build up the brain’s ability to cope with the disease.
Other benefits include- Puzzles exercise both sides of the brain, increase your mood through dopamine release, they improve memory, improve your problem-solving skills, improve your visual and spatial reasoning, lower your stress levels, and they can improve your IQ score. Need another reason to do a
puzzle, they are family-friendly and fun.
During our lifetime we learn many lessons. Many, I wish I had known as a kid, but grateful I have learnt them now. Personal development is about continually improving and growing. We never stop learning, and we often learn lessons that change the way we think, act, and behave. Life lessons can usually change the course of our life, sending us down a completely different path to the one we are on now.
Some lessons are simple and some more complex, yet every lesson has the potential to shape you into a more successful person. Much of these lessons come from simple little tips of advice such as these gems.
Tip #5 – Never Post Anything Negative
If you do not have anything nice to say, do not say anything at all. It is better to be humble than to be nasty and destroy a person’s confidence because you disagree with a comment they made on social media. Posting negative comments only make you look bad, not them.
The same goes for writing reviews. I often write reviews for many businesses. I am a consumer of, be it a hotel, resort, take away shop, or supermarket to name a few. I used to write both positive and negative comments. Until one day, my partner pointed out that writing a negative review about a business can really affect that business, and that I am better than that. I thought about what he said, and I immediately took down any negative review. I made a conscious decision to find the positive in every business experience I wrote a review about. I took my own advice.
If I receive a poor customer service experience, instead of posting a disparaging review I email or call the business and give them my feedback in a constructive way. Companies do not go out of their way to provide a bad customer experience. Sometimes it just happens. The best way to go about this is in a positive, constructive way. The business will thank you for the feedback and use it to improve their processes.
When giving feedback, ensure you are calm, kind, and considerate. Let the manager know of your concern or complaint. You will be pleasantly surprised by the outcome. Negativity serves no purpose and only encourage more negative behaviour.
Tip #6 – Be Persistent
Do not give in to procrastination, laziness, or disappointment, and most certainly do not let negative thoughts stop you moving forward. Keep working toward your goals as consistently as possible. Set your mind on achieving your objectives every day, and this attitude will become part of your personality. If you have big dreams, work on them even if only a little bit every day. If you fail, get back up and be persistent. If you want anything in life, you need to be persistent.
Tips #7 – Learn to be Resilient
Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines resilient as a. capable of withstanding shock without permanent deformation or rupture and b. tending to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.
You can do this by pushing past fears and focusing on your personal goals. Suppose you move through what scares you like facing toxic habits, dismissing unhealthy relationships, learning new skills, or jumping out of a plane. In that case, you empower yourself to recognise your value and worth. Build resiliency by facing your fears which will increase your inner strength and helps you grow in self-awareness.
Changing your mindset is the fastest way to build resilience. Using words like “don’t,” “can’t,” “no” or “won’t” are negatively associated words and often hold us back from great experiences in life. If you can change your mindset to associated favourable terms such as “can,” “will do” or “yes” you can find the freedom to explore new options. Just watch the movie YES MAN to see what I mean.
If you sometimes face adversity or struggles, you often feel overwhelmed. You may not be able to talk about what is bothering you with anyone. This often leads to a vicious cycle where nothing is ventured, and nothing gained. A terrific way to enhance your resilience and realign your needs and thoughts is through writing them down.
Take control of your life by choosing to look at adversity as empowering and start using positive words like “thriving” and “empowered.” By doing so, you will view your world from a unique perspective. Resiliency is about reframing adverse life events as a way of rising to new challenges and conquering them. When you are resilient, you will view challenges in your life as exciting and motivating, and you will start to set new goals.
Tip #8 – Be a Good Driver
How does being a good driver help with personal development?
If you turn the tables and think about all the things associated with an inconsiderate driver such as speeding, cutting people off, road rage, talking on their phones and texting while driving. You can start to appreciate the benefits that being a good driver can have on your personal development.
Firstly, nothing good comes from being an inconsiderate driver. You are either in a hurry or a stupid, reckless, selfish person. Doing any of these activities while driving can and do lead to accidents. Often causing harm to you, someone you love or someone you do not know. Furthermore, the financial cost could be detrimental to your life if you happened to injury someone or lose your licence, and you need your car for work.
I have a friend who continues to speed, talk on the phone and texts, and yes, they are stupid, reckless, and selfish. The amount of money they have spent on fines and court cases could have bought them a house. Why waste money and risk your life or someone else’s just to get from A to B a little quicker, makes no sense. There is a technology called hands free, and that text message will still be there when you get to your destination. If the text message is that crucial pullover, better still turn your phone to send a text that you are driving and cannot answer the phone.
A good driver learns patience and resilience. Often you are more alert with what is going on around you. I have avoided many near misses by other people because I was driving slowly, being careful and being alert. We cannot always predicate what another driver may do. However, if you drive carefully, within the speed limit and focus on your surroundings, you build confidence, patience, and resilience. Also, I find that I am stress-free, even when some loon gives me the bird or honks their horn.
Oh, by the way, a good driver is one who lets a car in and waves when someone lets them in.
Tip #9 – Groom Yourself
Most women I know do this very well; however, many men I know do not. Grooming yourself is a part of your self-care and is recommended daily. My sister Simone (A expert groomer) once said to me, “You must always look your best because you never know who you might meet”. She never left the house unless she was looking her best, and I challenge you to do the same.
Men often think that grooming is for women. However, many men are engaging in grooming these days, and many businesses now cater to men only grooming. Men have rougher skin than women and sometimes require different products. A product I have recently come across and is impressive. The LUMIN range of skin products for men, check them out here LUMIN Store they offer a ridiculously cheap trial, and I was so impressed I bought more products.
When it comes to grooming, include these into your daily routine.
Good Hair Care- Keep your hair clean and styled. Use good products to wash and stay away from parabens or other chemicals. Find a styling agent that works for your hair, ask a barber or a hairstylist to help you if in doubt. My parents always had great hair. Great hair shows people you take pride in your appearance.
Good Teeth Care- Brush your teeth and floss as often as possible, minimum twice a day. Make sure you see the dentist every 6 months, even for a scale and clean. When you have nice clean teeth, you tend to smile more often, showing you are happy, confident, and friendly.
Good Face Care- Use good products and clean your face daily. If you have facial hair keep it neat and tidy including the nose and ear hair. Using a good moisturiser can help with any dry skin.
Good Nail Care- Ensure you keep your nails clean and neat. Men do not be afraid to have a manicure and pedicure they are amazing, and a well-kept set of nails can say a lot about a person.
Tip #10 – Drink Water
Water has so many benefits to your health and wellbeing and should be a massive part of your nutrition plan. I carry a generous size VOSS water bottle and fill it as I need it. The large bottle is 800ml, and I make sure I drink 2.5 of them per day. However, you may need more or less depending on your body type and activation levels. I like the VOSS bottle because it is made of glass, suitable water bottle made from a substance such as glass, or metals are a better choice than plastic.
Benefits of drinking water include (BBC Good food 2021)
- It may improve memory and mood.
- It can help reduce sugar cravings and aid weight maintenance.
- It may improve exercise performance.
- It may reduce headaches and migraines.
- It may help prevent constipation in children and adults.
- It may help to prevent kidney stones.
- It may help reduce the risk of bladder infections
These are great reasons to drink plenty of water, so do your body a favour and drink up. If you dislike water, try lemon, lime, cucumber, or strawberry-infused water a delicious treat.